Folk Matter; They Really, Really Do
Then, slowly but surely, the post-adventure euphoria wore off, and Life crept back in. Laundry, tossed into the nest of a hamper, started multiplying like rabbits. Ants began marching across my kitchen floor with all the pomp of The Rose Bowl Parade. I started researching (and, okay, I couldn”t help it) writing a new novel. My husband informed me that I needed to pick out cabinet knobs, light fixtures, backerboard trim (?), and tile for our house. Our store also needed some extra TLC since our main employee, my amazing sister-in-law, has been out of town.
So, I gritted my teeth and bore it. I jammed laundry in all shades of the rainbow into the washing machine (it”s not your fault, Mom; you taught me better); I attacked the ants with Clorox wipes and an I”ll-show-you! supply of elbow grease; I spent all day Saturday in a stifling warehouse, purchasing items for our store from a business that was closing down theirs.
Without realizing it, I had allowed myself to get drawn back into the rat race of the daily grind, and my love for people — my patience for people — was getting devoured in the process.
That is, until a visitor clomped up the stairs into my office and changed everything; a visitor unlike any I have ever known before.
Renea Winchester, author of the memoir, In the Garden with Billy, had her life changed when she had a visitor of her own. Actually, the person she met on that hot summer day in 2008 wasn”t a visitor at all. Billy Albertson had been living in those Atlanta suburbs long before every property in the area was “three-stories, covered in three-side-brick, with a three hundred thousand dollar price tag.”
But Renea was too busy to stop by the “60s-style rancher that sold different goods according to the season and meet its seventy-seven-year-old proprietor. Every weekend she was driving four hours to North Carolina to tend her mother “whose ovarian cancer had returned with a vengeance,” and she did this in addition to being a Mission Leader during vacation Bible school and taxiing her daughter to and from various summer activities.
So when Renea”s daughter, Jamie, begged to stop at the Urine home drug test kits pills would help a drug user in passing the urine drug test, because they would clean his/her body from any harmful toxins appeared because of drug use. “60s-style rancher and look at the goats described in the “Goats 4 Sale” sign, Renea was exhausted but eventually gave in. Pulling into the yard and parking, Renea and Jamie walked beneath a carport and saw the vision of Billy Albertson:
If Billy Albertson reads just like a character, that”s because he is one, and Renea — who offered to help Billy in his garden several times a week — discovered this very soon after their unique friendship began. If he wasn’t fixing his truck engine with a few wallops of a two-headed hammer, he was working circles around Renea who, with a nickname like “Zippy,” should’ve been able to keep up with a man thirty-five years her senior but this was not your typical seventy-seven-year-old man.
Not only did working alongside Billy teach Renea the benefits of a simpler, stress-free life, but he also taught her about the “honer system” (“I like to trust people, and I believe people like to be trusted”), and how true love has the power to withstand anything–even Alzheimer”s, even death.
But the best lesson Renea ever learned from Billy was as simple as the man from which it came: “Folk matter.”
When that visitor clomped up the steps into my office, “folk matter” was certainly not the first thought that came to mind. All I was aware of was that my visitor smelled; that his eyes were a painful, pinkish red, and whenever he made his unnatural noises, spittle sprayed from his contorted mouth.
The boy — he could”ve only been eleven or twelve — gestured toward the door that led from the office into our apartment.
I shook my head and said, “No, No,” as firmly as I could, but this did not deter him. Giving me a defiant grin, he lurched toward the door and turned the knob. He walked into our apartment, as calmly as you please, and I found myself in a quandary: I did not want to follow an eleven or twelve-year-old boy into our apartment because I didn”t think his parents would appreciate that, but neither did I want that boy to go into our kitchen and find the knives.
I yelled down at our cashier, “Susan! You know where this boy”s mother is?”
She shook her head, but the mother must”ve overheard this, for she hollered, “Aar-ron! C”mon, now, son…getch yourself on over here.”
Glancing around at the apartment, he said, “Wow” (it probably seemed like Narnia after coming up from a grocery store), then walked back into the office and took my hand.
I was startled at first, because of the gesture, but also because this child”s hand was far larger than my own. Tugging on my hand, he led me down the steps into the store and walked me over to his mother as if for her inspection.
I waved and smiled to let her know that everything was all right, told Aaron goodbye and went back up into the office.
He followed two minutes later.
I was replying to some emails and he pointed to the computer screen, then pointed at me.
“Yes, yes,” I said. “I”m typing.”
He grunted and watched for a bit. Stumbling over, he put his hand over mine, pressed down hard, and scribbled the mouse all over the desk.
Dropping my hand, the boy came over and put his arms around my neck. I tried to remain calm, but he really did smell quite bad and the noises he was roaring into my ear were punctuated with spittle. I was just about to call for help when the boy”s mother hollered (there”s no other word for it) for him to “come down ’ere or else.”
The boy squeezed me into an awkward hug, then gave my neck a sloppy kiss. He was plodding down the office steps when he suddenly stopped and turned around. I was bracing myself for who knew what, but the boy just held out his fisted knuckles.
I started to smile as it dawned on me what he wanted. Seeing this, the boy smiled, too. It transformed his whole face, and I saw that his eyes beneath the pinkish tinge were a dark, chocolatey brown.
Holding up my hand and making a fist, I brushed my knuckles against his. His grin widened, and he switched hands. I brushed my knuckles against his other set, then he waved, clunked down the steps and rejoined his mother.
I sat there — it must”ve been five minutes, at least — without answering an email or scheduling a tweet. All I could do was picture that child who was living the simplest of lives, yet a fulfilled, stress-free one; and I realized that I shouldn”t feel sorry for him, for he was the one who had shown me with a hug, with a sloppy kiss, with a brushing of his knuckles against mine the same lesson that Billy Albertson had taught:
Folk matter; they really, really do.
As always, thanks for reading!
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Julia Munroe Martin
I loved this post! Very inspirational — and I so agree that folk really do matter! So glad you posted this!
Jolina Petersheim
I'm so glad, Julia! I think “folk matter” is something we all need to be reminded of from time to time.
Melissa Crytzer Fry
Wow. So inspirational, so lovely. It's moments like these – reminders – that are so important when we get caught up in the 'grind' of things. This was so touching. I can't WAIT to read your novel, girl. Your beta readers are probably EATING UP your work.
cynthiarobertson
I agree with Melissa, I bet your novel is wonderful!
Great post, Jolina. Folk matter.
Rebecca Harrison
This is fantastic. It really made me sit up and remember that we don't live in our own secluded little world. Folk really do matter. Thanks Jolina.
Jolina Petersheim
Thanks, Melissa, for your kind words about this post and my novel. I've gotten some positive feedback on my book, but I can't wait to see the MS and view the suggestions.
Jolina Petersheim
Thanks, Cynthia, for the encouragement! And yes, “folk” DO matter!
Jolina Petersheim
Hello, Rebecca–knowing that this post was able to help you sit up and take notice of those around you means so much to me. Thank you for sharing.
Stephanie@thecrackedslipper
Hi there! What a great post. So well written. Made me think, bless the internet for giving me access to so many great “folk” around the world!
Jolina Petersheim
Thanks so much, Stephanie. I feel incredibly blessed to have gotten to know you, too, and your very witty ways! 🙂
Cecilia Marie Pulliam
It is amazing how God uses what we least expect to teach us a truth. Besides people, stories are the one of the best ways to teach. After all, the Bible is full of them. Thanks for sharing. I realy enjoyed this.
Jolina Petersheim
Hi, Cecilia, I agree that God places people in our paths to teach us more of Him. I also agree that the Bible is full of stories that teach us invaluable lessons. Thanks for reading; I'm so glad you enjoyed it.
renea winchester
Hi all, Thank you again Jolina for sharing Billy with your fans, and for believing in the message behind the man. Billy believes that “to have a friend, you gotta be a friend.” His life is full of friends. Some life-long and some he just met. Thank you all for believing that Folk Matter ! Hugs, Renea Winchester